Selfish-Desires - Will Inspire!

I was going to leave this blog, perhaps forever.  Until my friend Diana grabbed my attention just the other day and said in essence, "Write the blog."  I spent the following day just thinking about what she had said.  Repeating her words in my mind.  Rolling around in the thoughts.  Wondering if it made any difference to put words out there into cyberspace.  And then, I stopped resisting.  (Di, I have to practice what I preach.  Thank you.)

Timing is definately a factor for me when I am writing.  And amazingly sometime this afternoon I was fully ready to write the title of this blog.  "Selfish Desires-Will Inspire."   Let me explain that oddly funny thought. 

I have always heard people say that being Selfish is a horrible character trait to have in a human.  And in some tenses, that is true.  But my thoughts about being selfish have begun to spin into something that rings with amazing truth that as a mommy, a wife and at times a friend, there are many days in which, I totally forget about myself altogether! 

You probably know exactly what I mean.  And more than likely, you don't need to be a mother or a wife to understand it.  Its human nature to give to others above and beyond yourself.  Sometimes we give, give and give more.  Until we are so exhausted on the inside.  I have always felt as if that moment could be described as if you were a vehicle that would like to run but is completely out of fuel. 

And that my dear, is when it is time to be selfish. 

As the New Year worked its way into my system, I quickly began to make plans for my "selfish desires".  I've made arrangements to work out at the gym, leaving the baby in the daycare for an hour.  Oh the freedom!  I scheduled a hair appointment and lopped off a whole chunk of hair to give myself a mini-make-over. (It was drastic and utterly thrilling to feel it fall from my head!)  I purposely began filling up my calendar with plans to get together with friends and do activities that will induce a series of enjoyably succulent moments!

But until today, I didn't clearly have the words to describe it.  You see, I was talking on the telephone to my friend Joelle, who lives several states away and feeling rather joy-full as she spun her story about how she was planning a dinner this very evening with another girlfriend...she was bringing wine and noodles to the dinner and they were going to discuss the possibility of getting a weekly "Supper Group" together,  with other girlfriends...with the pre-requisite that these girls be truly FUN friends who wanted to stretch themselves and actually cook a meal, no take out or pizzas allowed!  It sounded like so much fun!   I wanted to join them immediately.  So I excitedly blurted out,

"I am so happy for you!  I hope your dinner tonight is fully succulent and very enjoyable!  And I cannot wait to hear about your "Supper Group"!"

She quickly shot back, "Oh its purely for my own selfish desires!  I need some fun girlfriends in my area!"

And I quipped without thinking, "Well, your selfish desires, will inspire!"

We both started to laugh out loud.  But it was such a crystal clear thought! And strangely it made sense.  Perfectly charming sense.  I realized that it is because of others, like my friend who lives states away from me, indulging in her "selfish desires"... that I fell under the fabulous rainfall of inspiration to do something myself!

For a moment just ponder the women who do fabulously fun things around you.  Like those who build great digital scrapbook pages, such as my friend Jenna, who then shares them with the world.  She inspires so many others to create their own glorious pages.  Or my friend Aisha, who after years of hard work, will be completing her Masters Degree in a matter of months! 

Or any one of my flirtatiously fun girlfriends who calls to tell me about how amazing her date was with their sexy fun-filled man.  (Even one contagious discussion about the fabulous make out session a girlfriend had with her husband, sends me giddy with joy into my own hubby's arms, full of anticipation that I too will enjoy a session of lip locking!) 

How about a girlfriend like my wild friend Tina, who decided to start a brand new exercise class that she has wanted to teach for a long time.  And just today, signed herself up to run a marathon in the spring, JUST BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO DO IT!

And who can watch "The Biggest Loser" without being fully inspired?   I could literally write on and on about this very thought.  I am INSPIRED because someone else took the time out to be selfish and do something fabulous for themselves. 

Yet, today it dawned on me.  While every day I am inspired by someone else's "selfish desire"...I too have selfish desires to share.  And that is enough reason to write again.  Hopefully, it will indeed, do its job and inspire.

Comments

[Shabby Miss Jenn]

OMG you are such a radical girl! I am soo inspired by your zest for life!!!!!!!! Muah!!!!

[alli14]

Welcome Back

[Tomas]

Wow ... Thank you for the wonderful article. The title caught my eye at once, but it was your lovely openheartedness that gave me a good shake - wow!!! Your words help open the eyes, teach to understand the heart and thus free from the sanctimonious reasoning.
Selfishness looked ugly and it was fearful to confess such desires, but your posts provide the new angle to look at the reality we face.

The fear to look selfish produces the apathy, but your wonderful post heals us - the hearty wow came out of itself while reading your article.

Thank you.