Moments ago, I stood blow drying my hair, staring at the girl reflected back at me. I had just finished applying my make-up, spritzing perfume and now I was placing locks of hair into a manageable position for the day. As the hot air pushed hair across my face, a punch of a thought hit me. "Why on earth do I go to all this trouble every day, when I am a stay at home mother with no real place to go today?" And as quickly as the question came, my diva snapped to attention and replied, "Oh honey, are you kidding me!? You doll up for loads of reasons!" After which, she started to list them..out loud, in my head.
This seemingly strange internal conversation made me think about the others out there. You know who you are. Maybe you're a stay at home mommy or wife. Maybe you're simply a woman on your own. And you're stuck in a rut. You've got the schlumpy appearance externally and it's leading to more than you think! Oh I hear you arguing with me...but give the girl a moment to prove my point.
If I have to guess what you look like right now, I'd say, more than likely, you're sitting there, in a sort of schlumpy position, wearing pajamas, sweats or an outfit that was purchase in 1987, but feels so comfy, you simply can't let it go. Maybe your hair is up in a ponytail...or maybe a strange clip, also purchased in the 80's. Perhaps your makeup is still smudged across your face from sleep. Or maybe you haven't worn a shred of make up in years. If you're really in a bad way, the pj's have been on for days! And there are holes somewhere on the sweats. I don't even want to get started on the teeth or toenail polish.
Now let's get honest. Honey, you need some kind of girlfriend intervention in the biggest way! And I'm here for ya. (Sound the gongs please!) Why? Because babycakes, I've been there. I've done that to the biggest, grossest degree imaginable! And it all out drains the diva right out of a woman.
For years, I argued that it was comfortable and that was all that mattered. I liked my schlumpiness. I didn't care if my husband came home to it or not...he'd just have to understand that I was with the baby all day and between cleaning, cooking and childcare, I didn't have time for anything diva-licious. So there were days and days of "ick". Sadly, I can tell you that took a toll on this girl. I became complacent. I under-estimated myself. I forgot what it felt like to feel young and full of life. I gained weight. I kept weight on. I felt sluggish. I felt sad inside but tried to hide it. And that funk simply stunk!
Let's face it, when you shower, smell great and fix your hair, brush those teeth and wear something you feel at least "kinda cute" in, it changes the way you feel. I end up feeling as if I'd not be embarassed to answer, should someone decide to knock on my front door. I feel prepared, excited and ready for the adventure that every single days holds. If that continues for days on end, it will change your whole life. You'll feel better, do more, be happier, feel sexier and hold yourself a bit taller after a while...if not immediately.
Now I am not saying there aren't days when schlumping around sounds darn good to me. Every diva needs a "down day" here and there. But honey, don't make a career out of looking older than you are and not caring about the juicy girl inside of you. Juicy Divas, you've gotta be willing to get your diva dressed up and feeling good...even if it's just for you.
Girlfriend, if you're sitting there right now and you KNOW this is you. WAKE UP! Snap yourself out of it right now! Get off the computer and take a shower. Go put on a dress, just for the sake of feeling beautiful...it is so incredibly succulent to be inspired all by yourself! Perk up your face a little with a shade of lipstick or a gloss.
And honey, don't be afraid to toss out those sweats or the old PJ's. Come on now. Break out! Break free! And don't do the years of ick that I did! Are ya with me here?
(feeling hopeful that you'll get in the shower NOW!)